Why do we struggle so much emotionally in this culture?  In my experience there are some that are born with emotional systems that are off, and there are some whose brains get physically damaged.  But the large majority of us are born healthy and whole, and then we unwittingly learn to neglect the needs of this system as it’s put under pressure (03 Neglect and core debilitation).  We degrade into states of debilitation as we learn to shut ourselves down to this process, and our debilitation usually progresses until it reaches the core, foundational layer of this system.  This debilitation then demands to be expressed in different ways in our lives, often seeming to come out of nowhere and to be excessively extreme because we’re so shut off from the debilitated state that’s causing it.

Surprisingly enough, I’ve found that what sits at the heart of the mechanics of the creation of our problems isn’t purely emotional.  It’s energetic, and has to do with being connected to Life (06 Life with a capital ‘L’).  Most in this culture see God—which many define as the most powerful force in the universe—as something you need to believe in.  I do not, just as I don’t feel you should need to believe in the existence of something as powerful as the sun.  To me, both God and the sun are, at their core, power sources that are meant to nurture us by way of being in intimate, balanced, tangible relationship with them. 

The sun helps us generate Vitamin D.  Our connections to Creator, which I’ve learned we’re meant to experience by way of the functionally intimate relationships we can build with Creation when we use the earth to bring forth things such as shelter, water, fire, food, and clothing, give us the depth of connection needed to be fed by Life.  This gives us access to the energy we need to operate at our full energetic capacity.  When we lose these connections, we wither energetically. 

When our energetically based systems—our awareness, the intellect, our emotions, our sexuality—are only operating at 85% capacity, they can function, but they tend to really struggle when they’re put under pressure.  For the emotional system, this means that it can operate in a general sense, but that it will struggle to heal when damaged, and it will shut down and become deadened with more ease than if it was functioning at full capacity. 

In this culture, we’ve unwittingly used this tendency to be able to shut ourselves down to not have to pay off the natural emotional debts we incur as we move through and learn from life.  If we were still living lives that allowed us to use our basic needs to create intimate bonds with the earth, our suppress, ignore, and cover over approach wouldn’t work.  The Life we’d be connected to would force us to stay online emotionally as we got torn up, and trying to ignore our pain would just lead to us staying in pain.  This would show us that the only way forward would be to heal through and pay off our emotional debts as they were created.  This would sabotage our ability to create a backlog of negative emotion that builds and allows us to degrade over time.

For me, the issue of Creation, Creator, and Life is a functional and practical one.  It’s not about good or bad, right or wrong, nor does it have anything to do with worship.  It’s about the fact that only when we’re connected to Life with a capital ‘L’ –the way I’ve learned every native creature is from the plants to the trees to the deer and beyond—can we find and sustain our emotional system at a capacity to not be chronically plagued with issues and problems.

Don’t get me wrong—the solution to emotionally based issues and problems isn’t to go find God.  By the time we’re torn up at a core level, we need to heal at that level, or we won’t overcome our issues and problems.  But at the same time, this healing process can’t just be a purely emotional process because it will still be functioning at 85%, and that level of emotional performance can never successfully heal at the core level.  That’s why we need to come back to Life, from the inside out, if we want the chance at true change with our emotional issues and problems. 

This means we need to heal internally at the core level with the help of Life itself—which is what the songs of Life (03 The songs of Life) offers.  As we learn how to play our part in helping our emotional systems heal as song plays its part, we then need to learn to apply our building emotional strength and skill to our on-the-ground lives so we can reinforce our healing emotional states with on-the-ground reality (02 Why do we have emotions?).  We also need to learn how to establish a basic experience of connection with the earth so, as we come back to life emotionally, we can find the energetic supplements we need to resolve our depleted energetic state.  This is what the healing approach that I’ve shared with clients for 25 years offers.

I’ve learned that most people can’t relate to what I call core emotion, or to what I’m calling Life by me simply trying to explain it.  Most have unwittingly deadened their connections to the former, and have little experience with the latter.  This means that my explanations of why we struggle emotionally might sound rational, but probably won’t be something you can fully resonate with.  To do this, you need to shift out of the singular experience you’ve been stuck in for so long so you can gain a new perspective of it.  This means you need to start to wake up to your core emotions, and you need to heal through their debilitated state so you can start to come back to Life.  These two things only tend to occur when you step into a core healing process.

I have been successful as a practitioner for 25 years because of something I didn’t consciously plan to do.  My business has always completely depended on the word of mouth of my clients to bring new clients in because, for decades, this work was simply too vulnerable and precious for me to be able to actively reach out and offer to others.  This meant that the people in need of help that called me had already gotten the chance to experience the core healing process by watching friends, family, or acquaintances go through it.  This allowed them to experience the results of this process instead of just needing to hear about and make sense of explanations.  This allowed me to put the chicken (results) before the egg (explanations).  This gave people the impetus they needed to get started with their own process, and to ultimately use it to make sense of why they were struggling so much instead of just depending on explanations.

I’ve created this blog because I’m now trying to put the egg before the chicken so I can actively reach out to those in need and find those that want and need my help.  I’ve used the Why We Struggle Emotionally Posts to try to explain why it’s so normal for so many of us to struggle in this culture.  I hope you’ve resonated with these posts to the point where you’re excited to read on so you can hear about the 3 parts of the approach that allows us to heal at a core level and to come back to Life.

This starts with something called emotional release work.